New word! Too bad I'm clueless how to pronounce Portuguese...
I don't think of it as an analogy about putting too much faith in one solution, because in a panic it is very hard to be creative. But if others felt that way I could try to find a way to restructure it? IDK, I just remembered that "allegory" is the word I needed for the title...
Your second point is absolutely supposed to be in the story; this story first came to me from my first adult relationship when I was 19 and I was absolutely foolish in this way. However, the fact that it came back around in my late 30s (for a relationship lasting over a decade, and possibly others) led me to believe it's not so much worldly naïvété as interpersonal naïvété: to feel like you know someone so completely yet find that something fundamental is different only in a crisis.
I'm not sure I can disentangle your third point from the intentions of one and two: of course it's foolish to assume someone will save you without communicating, of course loving someone so much for that trait that you fail to work together is also foolish; but I don't think the distant aftermath is about forgiveness ultimately -- it's just about having to make your way in a world where a person you believed in -- and who believed in you -- feels like a total stranger. You don't get mad, you don't get to mourn, you just wallow in doubt and emptiness and take one step further apart every day.
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I don't think of it as an analogy about putting too much faith in one solution, because in a panic it is very hard to be creative. But if others felt that way I could try to find a way to restructure it? IDK, I just remembered that "allegory" is the word I needed for the title...
Your second point is absolutely supposed to be in the story; this story first came to me from my first adult relationship when I was 19 and I was absolutely foolish in this way. However, the fact that it came back around in my late 30s (for a relationship lasting over a decade, and possibly others) led me to believe it's not so much worldly naïvété as interpersonal naïvété: to feel like you know someone so completely yet find that something fundamental is different only in a crisis.
I'm not sure I can disentangle your third point from the intentions of one and two: of course it's foolish to assume someone will save you without communicating, of course loving someone so much for that trait that you fail to work together is also foolish; but I don't think the distant aftermath is about forgiveness ultimately -- it's just about having to make your way in a world where a person you believed in -- and who believed in you -- feels like a total stranger. You don't get mad, you don't get to mourn, you just wallow in doubt and emptiness and take one step further apart every day.