Not me over here crying?!
Jul. 11th, 2024 05:19 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
genderjumperA dear friend who seemingly drifted out of my life for the better part of a decade has reached out a couple times in recent years. She asked me for a phone call, and today we made it happen. I thought maybe she wanted to talk about future travels or just kind of generally keeping in touch.
But after a quick catch-up, she hit me with the question I didn't know I so desperately needed to be asked:
"So what happens to your life after caregiving?"
The hour that followed was only the beginning, but when I tell you how much I needed this conversation with this person in this way, it should sound like navigating by the stars for the first time or harvesting fruit you didn't know you planted. Our lives were starkly parallel in those days, and in some ways it divided us. I'm not even sure either of us knew what she was seeking from me until her healing leveled up and she thought to schedule this call and ask this question.
I really needed this. And there will be more in the future.
[Wipes away another tear.]
But after a quick catch-up, she hit me with the question I didn't know I so desperately needed to be asked:
"So what happens to your life after caregiving?"
The hour that followed was only the beginning, but when I tell you how much I needed this conversation with this person in this way, it should sound like navigating by the stars for the first time or harvesting fruit you didn't know you planted. Our lives were starkly parallel in those days, and in some ways it divided us. I'm not even sure either of us knew what she was seeking from me until her healing leveled up and she thought to schedule this call and ask this question.
I really needed this. And there will be more in the future.
[Wipes away another tear.]
